Being there for someone who’s grieving this festive season

The festive season can be one of the hardest times of the year for someone who is grieving. While the world around us celebrates, those carrying loss often feel the contrast more deeply, the empty chair, the missing laugh, the traditions that don’t feel the same.

If someone you care about is navigating grief this festive period, your presence, gentle, steady, and understanding, can make a world of difference. Supporting them doesn’t require perfect words or big gestures. Often, it simply means showing up in ways that help them feel seen, supported, and never alone.

Acknowledge that this time of year can be hard

Grief tends to intensify during the festive season. Memories resurface, traditions change, and expectations to be 'merry' can feel overwhelming.

A simple acknowledgment can be powerful:

• “I know this time of year might be really hard for you.”

• “I’m thinking of you as we head into the festive season.”

Let them know you see their pain without trying to fix it.

Let them set the pace

Some people may want company, while others need more space. Some may want to keep traditions alive, others may want to do things differently this year.

You can support them by:

• Asking what they feel up to

• Letting them know it’s okay to change plans

• Being flexible if their emotions shift day to day

There is no 'right way' to grieve during the holidays, only what feels right for them.

Offer practical, gentle help

Grief can be exhausting, especially during a busy and emotionally charged season. Practical support can be incredibly grounding:

• Help with shopping or errands

• Bake something for them

• Offer to go with them to an event they have on

• Check in with a meal or a coffee

Small acts of care can remove pressure and remind them they’re not alone.

Many grieving people want their loved one acknowledged, not forgotten. You can gently invite this by:

• Sharing a memory

• Including their loved one’s name in conversation

• Lighting a candle

• Asking about their favourite traditions

These gestures help keep the connection alive, offering comfort at a time when absence feels louder.

Check in event after the festive season ends

Grief doesn’t follow the calendar. Emotions may intensify after the rush of December is over. A simple message into the new year, “I’m still thinking of you," can provide comfort at a time when others may assume they’ve 'moved on.'

You don't need the perfect words, you just need to care

When someone you love is grieving, your presence is far more important than your phrases.
Showing up with compassion, patience, and tenderness makes the world feel a little less heavy for them, especially during a season that can feel overwhelmingly bittersweet.

If you, or someone you know, needs additional support, you can explore some of our helpful resources and past reflections on navigating grief throughout the year.